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Sex Offenders
« Thread Started on Jul 11, 2009, 9:24am »

The facility where I am a volunteer chaplain is now approximately 50% sex offenders. For the average person, that raises images of pedophiles who have abducted and raped children or perhaps the mom's boyfriend who molested the children while she was at work or the devious old man who exposed himself throughout the neighborhood. Sex offenses are so much more complicated and sometimes trite than we actually know.

Do you know that if a man (or woman) took a leak in the park and got caught, that it is addressed as a sex offense? Any crime that involves the exposure of genitalia is included. What about the boyfriend who is 17 with a girlfriend who is 15 or 16 and once he turns 18 and the momma gets mad with with him and has him charged with a sex offense? His life is virtually destroyed for the momentary rage of a mom who couldn't get him to cut the grass or give her some money.

Where is the balance?

What about the man who committed an offense as a kid and has never had a repeat episode but because the sex offender laws have a retroactive reach, he cannot now be around his own children. Nevermind that the original offense was 25 years ago.

Well, let's search this out and talk about this topic. There is definitely a need for sex offender laws. This is a sexualized nation. Our media is full of it. Burger King can sexualize Sponge Bob with booty commercials and have no consequences regarding children and sex, but we ignore that and call it pop culture. Every major clothing line markets sexualized attire for the smallest children, but we call that style and fashion. This nation lives a double standard at every level. We have voided the law of the spirit and are left to live with the laws of the land.

Okay, back on topic........... your thoughts?

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Re: Sex Offenders
« Reply #1 on Jul 13, 2009, 3:30pm »

Well since you asked, I guess I'll chime in with my two bits. You are so on point with the nation being so sexualized in so many different ways. The balance will be increasingly difficult to strike particularly when kids as young as 8 years old actually simulate sexual acts through dance, repeating sexual lyrics to songs and having the "option" of homosexuality rammed down their throats.

Don't get me wrong, sexual crimes against minors are just plain wrong, even though teens or pre-teens may be precocious. If you're older you should know better....ummm at least that's what I thought.

Imagine being about the age of 16 right now. Both males and females are more encouraged to have sex than to abstain. A 16 year old boy with a 12 year old girl from "around the way" seems normal because she's thick, can shake it the way she learned from the video or from what she saw her mom do.

The 16 yr old boy is taught from his peers to "hit that" just like the song says and the video shows and often what his daddy and uncle encourage him to do.

Outside of the blatant sexual offenses like a 30yr old man molesting a 5 yr old girl or a 25 year old female high school teacher sleeping with her 15yr old student, the lines are so skewed it is ridiculous.

A man peeing in public is not necessarily a sexual offense. Putting the act up on YouTube may be something completely different.

Even though we have laws against sexual offenses, one might suggest it may be better to go back to the moral days of old when T.V. shut off at 10:00 p.m. and the word "sex" was never used.

But let's digress for a bit, if we went back to the days of old, would that cause sexual deviancy to increase in a hidden manner? Or is it best that we remain sexually revolutionized?

I have mixed feelings about sex offenses, however I believe that far too many offenses have been unfairly catagorized as sexual offenses, or worst yet those that have done their time are continually ostrisized by laws such as "Megan Law".

Oh and let not forget the spiritual aspects....sexual spirits are the ones that seemt to be ever lurking waiting to open a door in which to attach themselves. Nowadays that could be simply watching a news clip.

Sigh....KEW you offer some profound points of discussions. I'm sure you're able to see things from a different perspective particularly by working with the prison population.

It's hard to forgive a sex offender even if they've paid their debt to society. When was the last time anyone heard testimony from a reformed/repentant/delivered child molester? I often ask my preacher friends if there is "room at the Cross" for molesters.

As you pointed out, many are convicted of sex crimes that are not really sex crimes. Others are victims of someone else's venom because of "teenage-to-teenage" sex, and yet the most egregious offenders give all of them reasons to never be forgiven, vindicated and at best delivered.

This is a tough topic, yet I admire your willingness to brave it and open the door to futher dialogue.

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Re: Sex Offenders
« Reply #2 on Aug 24, 2009, 6:16pm »

Hey kk,

My job has had me SWAMPED.....holding my head underwater......gurgle....gurgle.....

But it's better now!

I'll be back to answer posts......

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Re: Sex Offenders
« Reply #3 on Aug 30, 2009, 10:16am »

Unfortunately, a sex offender in the facility where I volunteer attacked a female officer by hiding in a restroom. He said demons told him to attack. He admitted that he had been watching several staff for a few months and waited until opportunity came for him. Her screaming brought help before a sexual attack actually took place, but she took a beating from the inmate. After he was caught, he said God told him to confess. My, my, my..............

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Re: Sex Offenders
« Reply #4 on Dec 3, 2009, 1:31pm »

Wow, that is something about the attack on the female officer. Sexual offense is a touchy subject. I do have a problem that anything involving genitalia is all put into one category because there are different levels of offense. I believe that the laws need to be revamped. I also believe that there needs to be more programs and services put in place to help sex offenders. It is bad enough that many that have committed a crime against a child, often go to jail or prison and be victimized repeatedly, so it is as if they are being punished twice. Then you have those that are remorseful versus those that have no remorse and would do it again at the drop of a dime. You have those that hurt others or victimize others because they were themselves victimized or hurt.

As far as the children are concerned and the way that they are learning so many things. It goes back to "it takes a village to raise a child." Somewhere along the way, the ball has been dropped and the values and morals that people once had seems to have diminished. We all have the ability to effect positive social and spiritual change. It is going to take more tarrying and praying until we see changes taking place.

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